Sep 17, 2007

G-spot and Female Sexual Response

This article will teach you all about how women respond to sexual situations and some topics about the G-Spot. A part where you can stimulate it to give your partner quicker orgasm. This article will teach you all about how women respond to sexual situations and some topics about the G-Spot. A part where you can stimulate it to give your partner quicker orgasm.

Female Sexual Response

The famous sex researchers, William Masters and Virginia Johnson, were the first to outline the four stages of sexual response in human beings. These stages apply to both men and women, but each gender experiences the stages differently. Men typically race through the stages faster than women do, but that's only on average.

In some situations, women may be ready for orgasm much faster than a man. We'll look at each of the stages as they occur in women and we'll tell you what signs to watch for so you'll be able to determine when your partner is ready for the next stage.

Stage 1 – Excitement

* This is one of the easiest stages to reach for both men and women. A woman can become excited just by smelling your cologne or having your hand brush against her breasts. She can become excited by fantasizing about sexual encounters or by flirting with you during dinner. In fact, during the average date, women may become excited ten to fifteen times. Most of those times do not lead to the next level, however.

* The female body responds to this stage in very specific ways. Let's go through some of those physical signs of excitement:

* Her nipples become erect

* Her vagina starts becoming lubricated

* Her clitoris begins to swell and grow larger

* The inner parts of her vagina begin to expand

* Her breasts may even increase in size if she becomes highly aroused

* These are not the only physical signs, but these are probably the ones you or her may notice. Notice that during this early stage, her vagina is already becoming lubricated. Many men have the mistaken notion that this is a sign that a woman is ready to engage in intercourse. That is not the case. A lubricated vagina only means a woman is aroused. All of these signs do suggest, however, that her body is preparing for the possibility of sex.

* Stage 2 – Plateau

* This second stage does not occur as frequently as the arousal or excitement stage. In fact, most incidents of arousal never reach this level. So when does a woman reach this level? Well, she will require more physical stimulation. Foreplay, for example, will help her move to this stage, so does increased fantasizing.

During this stage, sexual tension inside her body is growing.

* This stage is also accompanied by more physical signs. A few of those signs are listed below:

* Breasts may increase noticeably in size

* The vagina swells and the vaginal opening begins to narrow

* The clitoris becomes more erect

* Her heart beat may increase noticeably

* The color of the labia minora will change from pink to either red or wine-color

* This final physical sign is very important. Researchers have found that if the color-change does not occur, then women rarely have an orgasm.

* About one-half to three-fourths of women also experience what is termed a “sex flush” on parts of their body. The increased blood flow to the skin sometimes gives the appearance of a flush over the chest or other parts of the body.

* During the plateau stage, the woman's body is becoming ready for intercourse. Only near the end of this stage is she physically ready for vaginal intercourse.

* Stage 3 – Orgasm

* All of those women who fake their orgasms end up continually jumping from the second to the fourth stage of sexual response. After her body is truly ready for intercourse and if she is receiving the proper stimulation – usually clitoral – then it does not take long for her to reach the third stage.

* Below are some of the physical effects your partner will experience during this stage. Some of these should be noticeable by you and a couple are impossible for her to fake, so if you really want to know whether you are making her climax or not you just need to pay attention to the physical signs.

* Muscle contractions – Intense muscle contractions through the pelvic area will occur during the orgasm. A woman can have three to fifteen of these contractions depending on the strength of her orgasm. She may also experience muscle contractions in other parts of the body as well.

* Most women's bodies become temporarily rigid at the highest point of their orgasm. This lasts for only a moment, but its something you may notice.

* The “sex flush” is another indicator of orgasm. At this stage, it becomes brighter and more noticeable. It may also have spread to other areas of her body.

* Another tell-tale sign of orgasm in some women is ejaculation. Some women do ejaculate after an orgasm.

* Although you won't be able to see this, an orgasm can be detected by looking at a woman's brain wave patterns. There is a clear difference.

* Stage 4 – Resolution

* This is an interesting stage because what happens during it depends on what did not happen before or what is continuing to happen. For example, if a woman does successfully complete the third stage then she may be able to have multiple orgasms.

We'll talk about that more a little later in this article.

* If a woman does not have an orgasm, then her body will begin to return to normal but it will take longer. Many women report physical discomfort in the pelvic area during this process.

* You should also keep in mind that after an orgasm a woman's breasts and nipples will be incredibly sensitive. In fact, they can be so sensitive that touching them is uncomfortable for her.

* After the last orgasm, the “sex flush” will disappear. * Also, your partner may experience heavy sweating, rapid heart beating, and/or heavy breathing.

* The resolution stage marks the end of the cycle for women.

* Multiple Orgasms & Sexual Response Cycle

* Multiple orgasms do happen in women. In fact, they are more common than researchers initially believed. Any time a woman has an orgasm she is capable of having a repeat if the right stimulation continues.

* What's interesting about multiple orgasms in women is that they do not have to repeat the entire cycle to gain another orgasm. Once they are in the area between the third and fourth stages, their bodies are highly orgasmic.

by: Gabrielle Moore

Sep 16, 2007

What is Style? And How To Achieve It

Despite what the media tells us, true style has nothing to do with having a perfect body or becoming a slave to fashion. It's actually about being comfortable in your own skin and expressing yourself with confidence. Despite what the media tells us, true style has nothing to do with having a perfect body or becoming a slave to fashion. It's actually about being comfortable in your own skin and expressing yourself with confidence.

We probably all know a few women who seem to have been born with style and good taste. They are the sort of women who always look great and fit in wherever they go. What do these women have in common? Chances are it's not a size 0 body, a huge income or their own stylist.

What they share is a defined personal style and the ability to dress in a way that makes them feel comfortable and confident.

Women have long been seduced into believing that their external appearance is everything. And if we believe what mass media tells us, we're all abnormal if we don't look like a supermodel.

From an early age, we are influenced by the likes and dislikes of our friends and parents and later, our partners. Our education, family/social situation and career also play a part in telling us what we should look like and how we should act.

The problem arises when we allow all of these external factors to take over and we lose sight of who we are. When this happens we get stuck in a rut; shopping becomes stressful and frustrating; and our catch-cry becomes 'But I've got nothing to wear!'

To develop style means to marry what suits our height, personal colouring, shape and age from what's currently in fashion, and to understand which 'looks' are appropriate for what occasions. In other words, to become a woman who understands fashion without becoming a slave to it.

The fact is that every person, from any background, and any size, age or shape has the ability to dress in a way that is fashionable, flattering and in good taste.

Gaining this knowledge, and experiencing more shopping success, will allow you to express the woman within - the real you. And in turn this will then give you the confidence to become more creative with your wardrobe.

In essence, there are five key points to remember when it comes to personal style:

Appropriateness: for your physical shape, age and the occasion;

Simplicity: less is more. Choosing simple, clean lines and accessories;

Poise: carrying yourself with grace and confidence in every situation;

Authenticity: expressing the real you both in the way you dress and behave;

Courtesy: good humour and respect for others.

As you can see, style is about much more than just the clothes we wear. It is everything that makes us unique - from our personality and lifestyle, through to our education, experiences, values and goals. Apart from body shape and colouring, it is these things that will make or break style success.

Dressing in a way that doesn't fit with who you are as a person means not only will you feel uncomfortable but you will be sending very mixed messages to everyone around you. Feeling self-conscious will destroy any hope of style.

Being able to look in the mirror and like what you see is a very important factor in self-esteem. When you know you look good you walk, talk and think differently. Once you understand the basic rules of colour and style and apply them to your wardrobe in a way that suits you as an individual, you will be amazed at the positive changes that come about in your life.

by: Susan Lockhart

Sep 15, 2007

Women's Empowerment Tools

If you've ever felt undervalued in the workplace as a woman, you shouldn't. Women are becoming more and more prominent in work environments and even have special skills that can help them succeed even in a male-dominated career. Recognizing the natural self empowering tools for women, that women already possess, can be very powerful. If you've ever felt undervalued in the workplace as a woman, you shouldn't. Women are becoming more and more prominent in work environments and even have special skills that can help them succeed even in a male-dominated career. Recognizing the natural self empowering tools for women, that women already possess, can be very powerful.

Women have natural talents, but may feel as though those talents are not relevant to a place of business. This is incorrect. It is true that women, just like men, still need to master practical and technical business skills in order to succeed, but when it comes to climbing the corporate ladder, they have unique skills that organizations value. By simply tapping into these skills, women can empower themselves to obtain anything and everything they want.

Let’s start with communication – a skill that is vital to success. Women are natural communicators. Have you ever noticed how a mother “just knows” how important it is to talk and interact with her children, using appropriate language and phrase-structure that a child can understand. This same skill, slightly adjusted, works perfectly in a business environment. For instance, a woman who is managing other people must know how to communicate with each person individually in a manner that each person can understand.

Helen Fisher, author, The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing the World, refers to this as a flair for language. Fisher describes the increasing need for the ability to communicate with written and spoken words. To quote her, "At talking, women have the edge." Fisher describes how the female gender, even at very young ages "excel at... verbal fluency - rapidly finding appropriate words, phrases or sentences." Fisher writes "Women are, on average, more articulate at saying what they say." Women embracing this knowledge and trusting their natural language talent in communication will find their confidence building.

In terms of teaching or coaching, women also have an advantage. The nurturing characteristics that come more easily to women make it possible for women to help children learn and develop. The right combination of encouragement, discipline, freedom and boundaries will lead to a child whose confidence and abilities are very mature and continue to exceed that of other children. When this type of situation is applied to the business world, a woman can do the same thing for employees.

Once again Helen Fisher's research as presented in The First Sex states, "Women are, on average, more interested in cooperation, harmony, and connections - a network of support." She further writes, "Women characteristically believe everyone can succeed in business; they take a win-win attitude in the office world."

Many women are also skilled at multi-tasking or multi-focusing. Juggling people, reports, deadlines and all the necessary resources become critical to the success of the teams' results.

Helen Fisher references that human's evolution, even back to ancestral times, show a woman had to rear helpless and long-dependent babies under highly dangerous conditions demonstrating the need for multitasking even then. I lover her description: "In order to rear helpless infants, ancestral mothers needed to do a lot of things at the same time. Watch for snakes. Listen for thunder. Taste for poison. Rock the sleepy. Distract the cranky. Instruct the curious. Soothe the fearful. Inspire the tardy. Feed the hungry. Mothers had to do countless daily chores while they stoked the fire, cooked the food and talked to friends."

Of course, not all women have mothering skills and not all women are the same, but all women have the ability to identify the skills they possess and use them for personal and professional empowerment. Women can be just as effective at business leadership as men. If figuring out what makes you a successful woman interests you, why not make a list of all your personal attributes - those natural talents and empower yourself to soar to new heights of success.

by: Susan West

Sep 12, 2007

How often do you have sex?

If you think that you are the first to ask this question, think again. Many people wonder how many times other people and couples have sex. The simple answer is everybody is different. Some couples have sex a few times a month, others a few times a week, and then some a few times a day. There are several factors that affect how often people have sex.If you think that you are the first to ask this question, think again. Many people wonder how many times other people and couples have sex. The simple answer is everybody is different. Some couples have sex a few times a month, others a few times a week, and then some a few times a day. There are several factors that affect how often people have sex.

Different sex drives

Everyone's sex drives are different. For some people they need to express themselves sexually on a daily basis, whereas for other people their drive is not as high resulting in less frequent sex.

Experimental sex

If you are experimental in the bedroom and use sex toys or act out role plays, than this is more likely to keep both partners interested and coming back to try more positions and toys.

Your general health

Medications can affect your sex drive and consequently how often you want to have sex. If you are also unwell, or stressed at work or in your home life, this can result in less sex.

Creature of habit?

If you are used to having sex on a regular basis then no doubt you will continue this in your relationship, or find the right balance with your partner.

Are you happy with your sex life?

Generally speaking, if you are happy with your sex life and you are both being pleased, then this is going to lead to an increased amount of sex.

Confidence in communicating that you want sex

If you are open and honest with your partner and communicate when you would like to have sex (this doesn't necessarily mean talking...it can be kissing and fondling that expresses your desire to have sex which is much more appealing than straight out it) then you are more likely to have an action packed sex life.

Conclusion?

All this boils down to that every couple is different. There is no certain amount of times a couple should have sex. It is up to the couple to strike a healthy balance taking all the factors above into consideration.

If you unhappy with your sex life the first thing to do is communicate with your partner and see how you can make it better. For ideas see other articles on introducing sex toys into your love life to help put a spark back in the bedroom.

by Suzie Harris