Sep 12, 2007

How often do you have sex?

If you think that you are the first to ask this question, think again. Many people wonder how many times other people and couples have sex. The simple answer is everybody is different. Some couples have sex a few times a month, others a few times a week, and then some a few times a day. There are several factors that affect how often people have sex.If you think that you are the first to ask this question, think again. Many people wonder how many times other people and couples have sex. The simple answer is everybody is different. Some couples have sex a few times a month, others a few times a week, and then some a few times a day. There are several factors that affect how often people have sex.

Different sex drives

Everyone's sex drives are different. For some people they need to express themselves sexually on a daily basis, whereas for other people their drive is not as high resulting in less frequent sex.

Experimental sex

If you are experimental in the bedroom and use sex toys or act out role plays, than this is more likely to keep both partners interested and coming back to try more positions and toys.

Your general health

Medications can affect your sex drive and consequently how often you want to have sex. If you are also unwell, or stressed at work or in your home life, this can result in less sex.

Creature of habit?

If you are used to having sex on a regular basis then no doubt you will continue this in your relationship, or find the right balance with your partner.

Are you happy with your sex life?

Generally speaking, if you are happy with your sex life and you are both being pleased, then this is going to lead to an increased amount of sex.

Confidence in communicating that you want sex

If you are open and honest with your partner and communicate when you would like to have sex (this doesn't necessarily mean talking...it can be kissing and fondling that expresses your desire to have sex which is much more appealing than straight out it) then you are more likely to have an action packed sex life.

Conclusion?

All this boils down to that every couple is different. There is no certain amount of times a couple should have sex. It is up to the couple to strike a healthy balance taking all the factors above into consideration.

If you unhappy with your sex life the first thing to do is communicate with your partner and see how you can make it better. For ideas see other articles on introducing sex toys into your love life to help put a spark back in the bedroom.

by Suzie Harris